Hi Friends

I was in Penang International Airport last month waiting for a plane to come back home when I saw this posting. It will be the GREATEST Present that I have ever received for this year!

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<<So many of us go through life without knowing what to do, without a purpose, or maybe having a dream but never finding time to fulfill these dreams. Most will easily come up with reasons for not doing so. However, you’ve really never lived life till you lived it purposefully. Once you discover or rediscover your life purpose, that’s your compass, bearing direction in your choices in life. You do things that are aligned with your purpose and you know when to let go of certain time occupiers that do not serve that purpose. The ONE most critical training I attended my entire life is the NLP course by an ex-colleague and now friend and mentor, Cayden Chang.

Even though I had known for some time what my life mission is, I never really took it seriously, just floating along, got sidetracked, mixed with wrong company that got me so high and dry on some hollow friendship, and made a terrible life mistake that thrusted me into depression and felt that life wasn’t worth living. On the outside, I was wearing a facade of happiness, bubbly and friendly. Deep inside, I was hurting badly and felt I was living just so my loved ones do not have to grief. When Cayden first asked the class what we would want to do if we knew we only had a few weeks, days or months to live. I told the class there was nothing I’d do as I was ready to go. By Day 6 of NLP, this had changed.

At the NLP basic practitioner training and later master practitioner training, I rediscovered my life purpose. Untangled myself from the negative people that I got involved with, cleared my negative emotions and guilt, integrated a conflict that I had held with regard to making money whilst doing charity, learned and explored strategies for self life coaching and facing up to an unavoidable extended family member who’d been mentally abusing me for close to 20 years. Through it all, I completed my master’s degree and though I got nominated for two awards (based on research excellence and GPA) but didn’t win any, I emerged a winner. I’ve won over the demons in me: fear, conceitedness, procrastination, insecurity, negativity, etc. The list can go on and on. Other than my supportive husband who is always the buoy that keeps me afloat, NLP training at the NLP Singapore – Mind Kinesis NLP Academy is the lifeline thrown to me, the one that got me ashore. Borrowing the lyrics from the song ‘Passion’, the purpose (future) before me, the past behind me, there’s no turning back.

With NLP, I’ve opened the door for myself to a community of positive, supportive and encouraging NLP practitioner friends. I’ve also gone on to attend another training in Value Investing (VI) by Cayden’s company and started investing and earning passive income. Every now and then, in Facebook, these two communities of practitioners (NLP and VI) will “nudge” me on my dreams and my life purpose, with their reflections, announcements and sharing of their achievements of the various milestones and life goals. This sharing by Cayden below is one of them. Life is constantly throwing us the unexpected, the unpleasant,  the irksome somebody or some events. I can’t stop these from coming. But I am now better, much better equipped with the resources and community of support to face these. Unconsciously, I’m also starting to be more reflective, something I deem a positive transformation in me. Of course, NLP is not the panacea to all downs in life. It doesn’t mean I will never ever cry, fear, procrastinate, make mistakes or fail. Like what my best friend and sis-in-Christ Dorothy said, I am still the sinner, but a saved sinner. I am still the fallible human, but a more resourceful human, with the necessary mental resources to cope with the spectrum of life experiences.That is why I always have Cayden (who survived renal cancer in 2010) in my prayer. His work is transforming people’s lives. I sincerely hope he can continue to transform many more lives. And this all started with Cayden himself having the life purpose to motivate and empower people to reach their destiny.

READ CAYDEN’S REFLECTION at: https://nlp1.myguaranteedseo.com/inspiration-story/nlp-singapore-finding-your-purpose-in-life

READ INTERVIEW WITH CAYDEN CHANG BY MY AWARD-WINNING BUSINESS & LIFESTYLE BLOGGER COUSIN, GRACE TAN at: http://workingwithgrace.wordpress.com/2011/01/21/interview-with-cayden-chang/>>

It’s the usual month where Christmas is near and festive mood is in the air.

I wish you a Merry Merry Christmas and a Brand New Year where ALL your Dreams will come TRUE!

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Cayden Chang

Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International & Mind Kinesis Investments Pte Ltd
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree

Hi Friends

It was a wonderful evening yesterday (2/12/2013) at Learnathon 2013.

I just wish to share with you some of my LEARNING LESSONS:

1) HAPPINESS – by 11pm, there weren’t many people left in the auditorium but we continued with the programme to sing “We are the World”. Even though not many people were there to cheer, the remaining audience was awesome – they sing with us. This is the moment where I felt that the effort was well well worth it.

2) MEETING A BUSINESS ROLE MODEL, Ms ELIM CHEW – Just in case you do not know who she is. Ms Elim Chew  is the founder of the street wear brand, 77th Street. She co-founded Singapore Street Festival – a platform for showcasing local talents in areas such as performing arts, visual art forms, fashion, entertainment and sports, The Young Entrepreneur Mastery (TYEM) – a non-profit academy that supported youth entrepreneurship and inculcated an entrepreneurial mindset in out-of-school youths. Elim was also a founding member and director of the Social Innovation Park (SIP), a social enterprise incubator which aimed to provide a replicable set of integrated services and resources that would help create a platform to support social entrepreneurs’ business models that advocated societal change. Through this platform, she championed Pop and Talent Hub, the first social enterprise talent development platform in Singapore which gathered talents from social homes, institutions and also professional artists to sell their artworks with the objective of making them self-reliant.

She has been my Facebook friend for quite a while and I have been wanting to meet her. I have watched her Canon Think Big campaign, how she started helping others to start Social Enterprises and her ability to start a successful business from a hair stylist. I got to take a photo with her and also together with my staffs. A dream came true.

3) MEETING ADAM KHOO – the last time I met him was years ago and after he spoke, I went over, said hello and had an enjoyable conversation chatting about how he started his fund, etc. I was happy catching up with him. How lives have changed within a few years.

4) Meeting KC See – went for his preview when I was in my 20s where his course was called Certified Professional Trainer. I still remembered during those days, he was charging $6000+ for this course. I wanted so much to attend the course but I have no money. Fast forward 15 yrs+, I am glad to see him on stage where he talks about his life experience. After his segment, we spoke at our booth and we had a little chat. Exchanged name card and he was saying about collaboration in Malaysia. Looking forward to meeting him.

5) PATRICK LIEW (CEO of HSR Property Group), ROGER KOH (CEO of Chen Fu Ji Restaurant) Patrick Liew, Volunteers, the Entire Committee – saw how hard each of them work. Saw how the volunteers were helping the entire event. Since the onset of the event and I agreed to help, it was less than 10 days. I am aware of how Patrick called each of the speakers seeking help. It was like making cold calls. I saw how Patrick & Roger drive the event inside the Closed Group. It was madness! But they did it!

6) CHARITY & the CONCEPT OF MONEY – I was amazed by the stories Jerome told on stage on how he gave away a few hundred dollars when he only have a thousand dollar left and how he believed that you don’t have to worry about money. He also shared how his previous biz partner left about $900K of unfulfilled training engagements with about $100K in the bank. He took over the biz and cleared the fulfillments.

In a nutshell, I have grown another inch taller and I wish the same for you too.

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Cayden Chang
Founder & Director,
Mind Kinesis Management International & Mind Kinesis Investments Pte Ltd
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
BSc(Hons), MSc

Hi Friends

“You can only connect the Dots looking backwards” ~ Steve Jobs.

For years, I have always wanted to seek a vision/purpose for the foundation that I wanted to set up. My eyes, ears and heart is constantly aware of the people around me and just tonight, a few dots connect:

1) A girl and a mum with a cleft lip – I met this mum and her Pri 6 girl years ago when I was selling a children’s programme. Both of them were reserved and I infer them they may some form of low self-esteem issue because of how they look. The mum was not very well off but she paid about $12,000 in cash to the company wanted her girl to do well in PSLE. I wanted to help the little girl but I was not in a position to help during that time

Photo above was taken from a 2008 Academy Award Documentary “Smile Pinki”

2) My 2 little girls – having my 2 children taught me more about life, about responsibilities, about commitment and how the parents and the environment influence how they think and perhaps their future

3) My episode with Cancer and my encounter with Children Cancer Foundation – it was hard to imagine children having cancer and those with terminal stage. At one point when the officer from CCF told me about children dying in the ward, it put me into tears. Click the picture below to read about my story and my fight with Cancer.

A Sunday Times Article about my Life 

4) Rare Disorders Society of Singapore (http://www.rdss.org.sg) – I came across such a society when the son of a good friend was suffered from Leukaemia. He visited his son so often at KK Hospital tat he met a father who’s daughter was suffering from a rare disorder called Pompe Disorder. The name of this daughter was called Chloe, born as a normal baby on the 8th Nov 2009. At 7 months old, she was diagnosed with this Pompe Disease. It is estimated only 5,000 to 10,000 of the world population are suffering from this disease. She is now facing a huge battle of survival at her tender age. She requires regular (every fortnightly) ERT (Enzyme Replacement Treatment) at KK Hospital to stay alive and improve her mobility.The medical fees are hefty-up to $300,000/yr for the enzyme alone,excluding hospital fees which can come up to $100,000 or more. We have previously run a Charity Workshop for Rare Disorder Society of Singapore (RDSS).

5) Connecting the dots backwards – on my way back home tonight in a MRT Train, I saw an old couple (probably in their mid 50s) handling a presumably 5-year-old girl. The little girl said she was hungry and the 50+ father passed her a chocolate pocky and the girl started eating. The chocolate was all over her face and her father carefully wipe her lips with tissue paper. This little girl was sitting innocently on the lap of her mum who was sitting down. Her father was standing. I was just wondering whether her parents were live long enough to watch their little girl grow up. All 3 of them wore old extremely clothing. After alighting from MRT, I ask my wife is it OK for me to focus on children (vs adults) in our future foundation because they are powerless, innocent and yet they are the future of our generation. My wife said Yes. I have yet to chunk down on which specific group of children I helping though it’s a step closer to my purpose in life.

“Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish” ~ Steve Jobs.

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Have a GREAT Weekend!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International & Mind Kinesis Investments Pte Ltd
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree

Hi Friends,

I was elated to be given this opportunity and wonderful platform to share about the Hug I gave my Mum and have it documented down in a post 🙂 While writing this, I actually got to relive the moment again and I am thankful for that as it was the Hug that changed my entire life.

It all started on the very night 20 Aug 2013. I wrote this small little post that I very much wanted to share with Swish 26 cus” it was good progress! Here’s what I posted, word for word.

“This is a little out of context. But I really wanted to share this with Swish 26 who has been with mi on this journey all this while:) Every now and then, I have someone showing mi concern and asking how are things getting on between my mummy and myself. Today marked another milestone for us♥ As some of you might have known, i was affected by an incident that happened back when i was 13. Which was why i detached and drifted apart from my mum. (P.S my mum wasn’t at fault). Anw, as I was saying, today while having our dinner, I have no idea how but the scar that was deeply etched within mi all these years just disappeared. YES!! Like Swish! It’s just gone!:) It took mi quite a while but I am still glad i have let go of the past  we have yet to hug but I know the day will come:)”

Was rather hesitant before I clicked on the post button cus” it seems somewhat incomplete without the Hug that I have always wanted to give my mum. But I thought in any case, it’s still a progress worth sharing. So I posted.

Shortly after, came my 4^th belief test by my dearest Lifetime coach Cayden. So this was what he commented.

Needless to say, I was overwhelmed! Like TOMORROW?!! My mind went wild. I went through the fundamental formula of NLP repeatedly in my head and told myself E+R=O.  Then I recalled all the Belief tests I have been through before, I have faith this could be done and I knew Cayden must have his reason for putting me through this Belief Test. To be really frank, I did not sleep well that very night.

Reason being:

1. I really wanted to do this deep in my heart. I know if Cayden hasn’t put me through the belief test, it would have taken me probably another couple of months or even years to do so. So I keep telling myself NOW is the time and opportunity to do it. I know I will regret for the rest of my life if I do not do this and I would probably not have the courage to do it anymore.
2. I was worried I couldn’t catch my Mum in time. Due to our work schedules, we hardly see each other unless we are both on off coincidentally.
3. I was trying to figure out how to ‘execute the hug’. It sounds hilarious but I used the word execute as I was really thinking of HOW to go about hugging her. [Even details like the angle I should approach her, do I place my hands around her waist or her neck?] It was only then that I realized I haven’t hug my mum before! An Asian being an Asian, we were never taught to be so expressive when it comes to our parents. I could do it so naturally with my fiancé and friends I can’t believe I was having so much difficulty hugging someone I loved so much deep down! That very night, I keep visualizing myself hugging my mum and wonder how it will turn out and how she will react to it. On the other hand, I keep calming myself down and told myself it will all turn out well.

Anyway, that day came. I could remember so vividly it was 21 Aug 2013. I woke up at 6am in the morning. What surprised me was I didn’t even need the alarm [I was never a morning person]. My Mum wasn’t awake yet. See what I meant, I didn’t even have any idea what time my Mum wakes up each day. Anyway I was feeling REALLY sleepy. So I went back to catch a wink. And I heard the door open. I jumped out of bed and pretended as though I was awake long ago [Laughs!]. In my room, my heart was racing. I paced up and down the room. I panicked when my Mum was just about to leave the house. I have no time to spare! My legs took over my mind and I went up to her and gave her The Hug. Tears welled up the moment I hugged her and everything just made sense from that moment. The Hug unwinds the past 13 years, literally! It felt like we travelled back time and I felt like a mummy’s little girl againJ

To be honest, after the hug, i was a little lost at one point. Like what’s next? The feeling of having my mummy back was so good i didn’t want to stop there. [It may sound exaggerating to you, it really felt like I found my mummy back after getting lost and detached over the past 10 over years.] I could finally be my mummy’s silly little girl again and I love that so much! So this is what I did, I met up with my mummy after her work for dinner.

As I am typing this, we are into 4^th day and life has been amazing ever since! I learnt things about my Mum that I never used to know, which makes me appreciate her so much better than before.

So maybe I will share more here about how great life has been for my Mum and myself.

Guess what? My mum became my BFF (Best Friend Forever) and my confidant. Prior to this, I could never relate when someone says their Mum is their BFF/confidant but now I could truly appreciate that.

Today I was feeling a little overwhelmed by some issues I was facing. Spending the day with my mummy dearest was ‘therapeutic’J I woke up at 0730hrs in the morning and accompanied her to the polyclinic for her routine medical examination. I was glad I could be there with her; helping her with all the communication etc. [My Mum could only understand and speak very fundamental English. My Mum was telling me about this other time she went to CPF Board all by herself and how difficult it was for her when she couldn’t converse well in English. Hearing that makes me so guilty and ashamed of myself.]

Anyway, while waiting for our turn, we were enjoying each other’s company so much the wait didn’t even feel long! My Mum loves to take photos. So I began sharing with my Mum on some photo editing apps on Android and taught her how to use it. She told me she loved it and was so excited trying it out on various photos! If you ask me, I could never do that in the past. The moment my Mum asked me questions/ seek help, I get very frustrated. On good days I will answer her with an impatient tone [Can you imagine?!!], on bad days I simply brushed her off and get her to ask my brother instead [Seriously?!]. And if you think I wasn’t appreciative, you are so wrong. I was aware of all that my Mum has done for me over the years [SWISH 26 would know as I shared some parts of it during one of the Gratitude sharing session] and she meant so much to me. However, part of me just couldn’t let go of that one incident at the back of my mind.

Coming back, I accompanied her for the blood test, fixed the next appointment and here comes the best part, I foot the medical bill for my Mum. At that very instance, I could finally feel myself taking up the responsibility as her daughter. I can’t believe I didn’t do this until today and all along she was left alone to handle all these by herself. She must have felt very lonely that no one was there for her. Thereafter, we had a nice breakfast, went grocery shopping [her company was what makes it wonderful. Trust me, I was never a morning person and I never like the wet market.]

Back in the lift, mummy dearest asked me this question, “Aren’t you meeting JH [my fiancé] today?” I replied no. She asked me why so. I told her I have things to do. She asked me why didn’t I sleep in later so that I would have energy later in the afternoon to finish up my stuff. My ego consumed me at that moment again. I didn’t want to tear again. So this was what I told her, “I didn’t want to waste my morning sleepingJ” But the truth is, I didn’t want to be anywhere else. I just want to be there, right next to my Mum. I wouldn’t have exchanged those precious moments for anything else.

At night I was feeling kind of lost as I was still fretting over some issues that have been bugging me for days. I sat on the sofa, right next to mummy dearest. Lying next to her watching TV was simply comforting and gave mi strength♥ That is the lifetime privilege of a Mummy Little Girl for youJ

So what was the change?

Let me find the best way to share this. Maybe I will start with my train of thoughts.

In the past, I was a selfish girl living in denial, in self-pittance. I don’t live for anyone else, but myself.  After I made the effort to communicate with mummy dearest, I came to realize what I have been through, what I though was hardship was just peanuts! My mum has been through so much more in life, the intensity was 100000 times of mine! Till now, I still couldn’t forget the teary journey home [on the very night I met my Mum for dinner after The Hug in the morning]. I just couldn’t bear the thought that my Mum actually went through those painful moments in her life and suffered in silence [honestly I would not have survived those alone!].To think I didn’t even know about it!

I was really touched by my Mum’s unconditional love for the family. I could never recover those lost days [years actually]. Right now, I just want to love my Mum with all my life and do whatever I could for her.

Making a big life change is pretty scary.
But you know what’s even scarier?
REGRET.

Here’s an excerpt I took from the Book I am currently reading: The Follow Through Factor. I thought it would be appropriate to share in this context.

The worst thing that happened to those who fall short in following through their dreams is nothing, Life goes on as it is. Nothing happens. That’s the tragedy of matter.

It’s true. Life goes on that day even if Cayden hasn’t put me through the Belief test. I might have felt something is missing [and I would never find out what the missing piece was] but life goes on for me and I will continue living the way I have been living for the past 13 years.

Food for thought,

What was the ONE thing you always wanted to do but just haven’t got down to doing it?

With that, here’s a picture of mummy dearest and myself ♥♥

This particular picture is meaningful to me as it was taken on the night, after the Hug on 21 Aug 2013 🙂

Hazel

NLP Batch Swish 26

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Hi Friends,

I have everything to be happy about, I am healthy, I live in a peaceful country, I have a wonderful amazing family, a loving relationship, two adorable dogs that I love so very much, a stable job.

Yet, I have always felt that something is missing.

For the past few months, I felt uninspired, restless. Perhaps that is why I love to travel, it allows me to run off somewhere, an escape.

In The Happiness Project, when Gretchen Rubin wrote “the days are long but the years are short”, she spoke right to my heart.

Inside, I was screaming, for I saw the years past me by, and yet, I felt that I have not achieved enough. I felt that there was more outside. I was starting to get restless.

I have hit MID-LIFE CRISIS at the age of 29, and I felt like packing my bags and running off to Africa!

Instead, one evening in April this year, I found myself together with my boyfriend, sitting at the front row of Cayden’s Preview to NLP. That night, my boyfriend and I decided to sign up.

Fast forward to current day, third week of August, I have since completed the 6th day of the class.

I realized that there was really no need to run someplace to find happiness, it has to come from WITHIN.

Wherever you Go, there you are.

These days, whenever I find myself in a challenging situation be it at work or in my personal life, I remember that

“The map is not the territory”, and instantly, from within, I feel happier, lighter. I feel more forgiving, and I find myself curious about everybody else’s map of the world!

I have come to realize that Happiness is a funny thing: too much of a good thing makes it boring, and too little makes it depressing. Hence, we always need the good, the bad and an environment of growth to keep us inspired and hopeful. Most importantly, happiness is a journey, not a destination. Some days, I get it great, and some days, it may be a stormy day. Anyhow, it doesn’t matter, so long as I keep on walking.

I started my own Happiness Project a month ago feeling lost, insecure and unsure. But today, I feel inspired and excited for what I shall discover.

Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves -Henry David Thoreau-

My adventure has begun, and I haven’t even left home. Here’s to exciting times ahead!

From,

Ping  (NLP Batch Swish 26)

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