Terry Fox and His Marathon of Hope

I know you have probably heard about the Terry Fox run – a Marathon of Hope.  He is no longer around …….. but his spirit stays.  Watch the below youtube video and witnessed the human spirit.

It’s not what you do not have, it’s what you really have.

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How to Become More Effective in Your Coaching Consulting and Training Business

By Graham Constantine

5 Practical Skills To Get More Influential

Well, of all the places to discover something new, something that works, sitting in the entrance to the Rope Tackle building in Shoreham about to make a sales visit to a big potential new Customer. Well, “he’s probably not really that big!”, I say to myself, but his reputation is that he learns by doing and has no time for “personal development stuff”. His favourite sayings are “I want to be effective”, and “I learn by doing”. I feel that my stomach is a little tense and my palms are a little hot and moist. I wonder, what can I do to influence him to become a customer…..

Well, maybe these 5 practical skills may help :

Skill 1.Be Likeable and Helpful To People That You Meet To Earn The Right To Influence Them.

Skill 2.Use The Language And Behaviour Of Influence To Create An Agreement Frame !

Skill 3.Make A Great Sales Presentation.

Skill 4.Build a pathway to Yes and Lead Your Prospects to make really great decisions.

Skill 5.Frame Objections as Resources and Negotiate to close more Win-Win Agreements.

So, as I’m waiting in the reception area I’m spinning the feeling of being in a wanton buying state from the top of my head to the tip of my toes. Sounds a bit wierd I know, but it works, I begin to relax and prepare for our discussion.

Step 1 : Be Likable and Helpful !

“Few people would be surprised to learn that, as a rule, we most prefer to say yes to the requests of someone we know and like.” Robert B Cialdini, Ph.D.

We sit down on a low leather sofa and I smile, shake hands and say “So, I’m curious, how’s business ?”

He tells me “Business is going really well. We’re really busy.”

As our conversation progresses, nod my head gently and gesture to demonstrate that I understand what he’s saying. Turns out that he’s had a bad experience with Steve, at least I think that’s his name, someone else who came in to talk to him about NLP…..

“Let’s get straight to the point. Does NLP work?” he asks “the other bloke told me I think

in pictures and I thought about it over the weekend and I actually think in words.” He says.

Step 2 : Create an Agreement Frame.

“The thing that makes NLP work go so quickly is that we make very practical decisions about what order we do things in…..”Gather information!…Evolve system…Solidify change”” Richard Bandler and John Grinder

So I begin from a point of agreement and continue to ask questions to find out what we agree on and playback all the things that we do agree on.

“Do you want to know how NLP works?”

“Yes” he replies.

“Well, I’m sure that you do think……

and when you think of the seafront at Shoreham, how do you think?” I say

“in pictures”, he responds

and when you think of writing a proposal how do you think?

“in words……”

and sometimes you think in feelings, sometimes you think in sounds ….. depends on what you’re doing…….

and I’m curious, have thought what you can do with NLP …..”

Step 3 : Make A Great Sales Presentation.

When they think people tend to use their senses. So when you do your sales presentation, you can use a mixture of seeing, hearing and feeling words to match the way that your prospect thinks.

“because, we always ask the participants in our workshops, why do you want to learn to use NLP to influence people ….. Here are some of the answers that we get:

Improve Negotiation Skills – Hit More Objectives

Make Initial Connection – Rapid Rapport

Use Language To Encourage Response

Match Customer’s State and Lead to Where You Want To Go

Close and Say Yes

Yes By Face to Face, Email and Phone”

“When you do the right thing for the right reason you will enjoy influencing and persuading more, take the pressure off and you will be more successful…..

so, can you see yourself using some of these skills, hear the different responses that you get, how you vary your voice tone and tempo, and influence more people….. and get the response that you want…..”

Step 4 : Lead Your Prospects To Make Really Great Decisions.

Your prospect has made decisions before, so you can help him or her to make another great decision.

“easily, so are you interested to……learn more……

as I’m sure that you’ve made good decisions before…….

so what more can I tell you and show you……..”

Step 5 : Negotiate To Close More Win-Win Agreements !

As you began from a point of agreement the amount of conflict will be very low, so you will reduce the amount of negotiating that you need to do.

“…..so can you see yourself on an NLP workshop and hear the sound of laughter…..”

“Yes”. He said. Let’s go……

You too can use these five steps to influence more people.

Live an amazing life, succeed in your small business.

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NLP Anchoring and the Law of Attraction

What is the law of attraction and how can NLP techniques increase and enhance its effectiveness? The following article will show the basic elements of the universal law of attraction and how it can be applied to your everyday life.  The second half of the article will demonstrate how to use and create an NLP anchor.

When you understand how to use your anchor, you will see how this new anchor can be used to accelerate the law of attraction process. By following the steps in the anchoring technique, you will be able to have access to any emotional state that you desire in any situation.

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NLP Anchoring and the Law of Attraction

By Jacob McDonald

What is the law of attraction and how can it be affected with NLP?

The Law of Attraction is the universal law that the focus of your thoughts becomes the reality that you are living. What you focus on is attracted to you. As one of the spokesman for the law attraction Mike Dooley states “Thoughts Become Things”. The principles of the law of attraction have been used in people’s lives all over the world to bring success, relationships, personal wealth, and white jaguars. The law of attraction, when used in a person’s life, literally makes dreams come true.

How can you begin to use the law of attraction in your own life? The law of attraction is easy to apply to your life and some might say that is seems to be too simple to work. Many people do not know that they are actively taking part in the law of attraction on a daily and moment to moment basis in their lives already. To begin to use the law of attraction you may use the following steps.

1. Clearly in your mind think of what it is that you want to attract into your life be it a new home, a car, a specific relationship or personal wealth.

2. State to yourself that you have the thing that you are attracting now.

3. Next, take 5 – 10 minutes each day and visualize yourself with the attracted thing, or event as if it were happening now. Feel the feelings and see the things that are congruent to having your dream now.

4. Continue this exercise once a day and allow your unconscious mind and the universe to align their selves with your will.

To clarify some of this process I will explain some of the steps in greater detail. When you are deciding what you are going to manifest into your life be very specific. Make sure when you are stating what you are attracting to yourself that you state it in the positive. If you have bills racking up do not focus on not having bills, focus and state that you have abundance and in this case be specific about how much abundance you are looking for.

When you visualize your wish happening in the present, make it so vivid to yourself that you can feel the excitement and gratitude of having this thing now. Make a note to include yourself in your visualization. If you are in want of a new car, see yourself in the car; see your hands on the steering wheel of this car. It is important to see yourself in the vision so that your unconscious mind and the universe understand you are not merely attracting seeing this new vehicle, but that you are indeed driving and have ownership of this new amazing dream. Your unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is visualized and what is actually seen. The results of this are that your unconscious mind will begin to make adjustments in yourself to make your focus your reality.

Be encouraged as you progress with this process that as you remain focused on your goal, it will come about. Continue to visualize everyday even though it may appear the results are not happening as quickly as you would like.

NLP can accelerate the law of attraction

To Reiterate; the key points of the law of attraction are to feel the intensity of the feelings that accompany you having your dream and secondly to vividly visualize your dream as a current reality.

For the first and most important aspect of the law of attraction, which is to feel the emotions and feelings of this new reality coming to pass, a powerful NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique can be used called anchoring. Anchoring in short, is attaching a neurological response to an external stimulation. An example of this is when you are in love with someone and you see their number form onto your caller you may notice your heart begin to race before you even answer the phone. Another example of an anchor that is used powerfully in marketing is through the use of music. You may feel a certain emotion when listening to specific songs. In recent car commercials I have seen the use of a variety of popular songs from the 70’s. These songs are used knowing that the target audience has an emotional response to them. The principle behind this is to attach the summer fun you felt in the 70’s to the fun you can feel in this new vehicle.

Now that you have an understanding of an anchor as an external stimulation that triggers an internal state I will explain how this can be used to enhance the process of actively attracting things and events into your life. Anchoring can be effectively used to trigger the states of excitement and joy as you want to apply to your dream and its fulfillment. In the event of your visualization you will now be able to trigger the powerful emotions that are the driving force of creating reality.

How do you go about making an anchor? There are many ways to make an anchor; I will layout several strategies to follow and you can choose the one that best works for you. First off what you are looking for in a reality creating state is: gratitude, joy, excitement and ecstasy. These are a great place to start to show your unconscious mind and the universe that this is something that you really want.

One method you can use to gain immediate access to these states is through music.

1. Find a piece of music that you particularly like, a piece of music you have access to every day is obviously preferred.

2. Now that you have your piece of music ready to play, put it on repeat if possible and begin to play the music.

3. As the music is playing what you are going to do is begin to allow yourself to experience some powerful memories.

You will think of a time when you felt gratitude for any reason. See yourself in that very moment, seeing what you saw and feeling what you felt. Make sure that you relive these memories in the clearest way you possibly can. At the moment you feel the feeling intensely immediately shift your attention to the next memory you will be using. Now find memories for each of the feelings you will be anchoring including: joy, excitement, and ecstasy

4. When you have relived several memories and felt the multiple feelings you are looking for you can turn off the music.

5. Now that the music is off, you need to forget about the whole experience and think of something else, such as what your address is, what your mother’s maiden name is, and what the model of your first car was.

6. Now it is time to test the anchor. To test an anchor it is very simple, all you need to do is introduce the stimulation again. In this case turn your song on again, and notice that you can feel the feelings of Gratitude, joy ect…

7. If you do not feel the feelings as intensely as you would like replay the song again as many times as you wish and attach as many powerful memories as you want. You may find yourself having a whole lot of fun doing this because you will start to remember things you haven’t thought of in a long time, think of the things that bring a smile to your face and a warmth in your heart.

Another method to anchor emotional states is by physical touch. This is my personal favorite when working with another person because it is more intimate and I feel more of a connection between us as we are working together to overcome specific problems or bringing out desired emotional states. This method is also powerful when doing this work on your own.

1. First you are going to choose a place on your body that you will touch with a light to medium pressure. (Note: I would recommend an area on your knee for this technique. A key point to take into consideration is to touch the same place with each emotion and to apply the same pressure each time. Many people ask if it has to be exactly the same place with exactly the same pressure. In response to this, be as close with both location and pressure as you possibly can. Do this technique to the best of your ability and you will see beautiful results.)

2. Allow yourself to experience some powerful memories. Just as stated in the third point to the auditory anchor you will clearly remember a time for each emotional state.

3. When you feel the emotion begin to build get ready to touch the area you have chosen, but be aware of your timing. Touch the area at the moment the emotion is the strongest. You will notice you can feel the emotions more intensely by increasing the details of the memory you are replaying. Hold the pressure at that area for a brief moment, 1 – 2 seconds will be perfect.

4. After you have anchored one state follow this up with thinking of some information like what did you have for breakfast, or how much did you save on your car insurance?

5. Now repeat the process for each emotional state that you are anchoring.

6. When you have anchored all of the states clear your mind and think of something like; when was the last time you went out to dinner?

7. Now test the anchor by touching yourself in the same place with the same pressure. You will feel the emotions flood in, and you may experience some of the memories after firing the anchor off.

There is a way to create an anchor using an image of any sort. To do this follow the last procedure for creating a physical body anchor, but instead of touching yourself look at an image at the peak of the feeling. You can do this with an image on your computer, a poster, a figurine or a flash card that you have or that you will construct.

Now that you have this powerful anchor you may use it to accelerate the law of attraction in your life. To do this, follow the law of attraction process, and during your 5 – 10 minute visualization period you can create the emotional state needed to cause your unconscious mind and the universe to respond by firing off your anchor. You can take this a step farther and also fire off the anchor when you are thinking of this process working in your life. You will have a twofold effect of not only attracting your dreams into your life using strong positive feelings, but you can also increase the speed of this process by attracting the success of your use of the law of attraction by using the strong feelings on your thoughts of it working.

This anchoring technique is a very powerful way to access any desired emotional state. You can use this very technique to anchor any emotional state to a song, an image, or a touch. If there is a time when you think a specific emotional state would be desired you can use anchoring to do this.

Enjoy this amazing technology and watch your life transform into your wildest dreams!

Jacob McDonald, CHT

Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner

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What Can Nlp Coaching Do for Me?

Learn what NLP Success Coaching can do for you. Find out what to expect from your NLP Coaching session. Expect to be fully heard and make the changes necessary to achieve positive outcomes in your life and business.

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What Can Nlp Coaching Do for Me?

Author: Bill Thomason

NLP Success Coaching

Your NLP Success Coach doesn’t just give you advice. Expect to be fully heard and learn specific skills you need to make the changes you want to succeed now, don’t you?

Your NLP Coach believes you have all the resources necessary to achieve any outcome in life, and you may simply have those resources organized in a way you have not been getting what you want.

The Most Successful People You Know Have Coaches

NLP Success Coaching incorporates the same technology for profound personal change that sky-rocked best-selling author and motivational guru, Anthony Robbins and others to massive success. Together, personal coaching (life coaching) and business coaching (executive coaching) has become a significant and respectable business over the last few years.

You Can Make the Changes

Other coaches may give you advice, but your NLP Success Coach can help you make the specific changes necessary to achieve excellence. Like a sports coach, your NLP Success Coach will push you out of your comfort zone and support you in your decision to play a game big enough to inspire you to achieve more than you ever thought possible.

How big is the game you are playing?

The quality of your life is directly impacted by the quality of your communication. Your relationships, career, finances, and personal happiness, all depend on your ability to communicate effectively with yourself and others. In the domain of work, do you sometimes think you have communicated effectively, only to find that someone got the wrong message? Do you worry that you are so busy ‘putting out fires’ that you are not effectively moving your business and your career forward? Do you worry about saying and doing the right things to build and maintain relationships with those in authority positions? You are probably good at what you do, but there are also things you cannot see or predict from your current perspective.

A characteristic of highly successful people is that they imagine a desired future and then communicate that vision in a way that enrolls, includes, and empowers other people. Your coach will help you access your own states of excellence so that you easily exercise the energy, intention, confidence, and assertiveness necessary for extraordinary achievement.

What Can NLP Coaching Do For You?

Even Coaches have NLP Coaches! Bill Thomason has helped thousands, like you, to achieve your most highly valued outcomes of personal growth, business success, relationship, spirituality, motivation, team building, career advancement, and more. Bill will gently nudge you toward achieving more than you ever thought possible. Bill can help you decide what it is that you do want and will then work with you to identify and eliminate the barriers that have stopped you in the past from achieving everything you want. And you do want to live your life fully now, don’t you?

What stops you…?

…from achieving what you say you want in life?

Bill says one of his mentors growing up was his Uncle, Darrell Royal. According to Bill, who played football at the University of Texas in the early 1970’s, his Uncle was way ahead of his time as a college football coach. Long before the Inner Game of Tennis and Inner Game of Golf books by Timothy Galwey in the late 1970’s, Bill says he observed that his Uncle treated football players with great respect. After all, they were the best of the best. Derrell Royal didn’t have to yell at or berate his players when they didn’t perform at their capability level. He would ask pointed questions that allowed the player to draw learning from deep inside themselves and from their own unique experience of life.

Bill believes that this Uncle’s understanding of an athlete’s innate ability to excel, is what took the Texas Longhorns to National Championship status. Darrell Royal was named ‘Coach of the Decade,’ for the time period between 1965 and 1975, and was called, ‘the winningest coach’ of his time.

Areas of focus for your NLP Success Coaching session:

– Get a promotion

– Deal with conflict

– Handle loss of job

– Produce results faster

– Influence with integrity

– Acknowledging Successes

– Become an effective leader

– Be a full player on your team

– Change your personal history

– “Wire in” states of excellence

– Set and achieve goals/outcomes

– Deal with upsets/negative feelings

– Attract and maintain a relationship

– Recognize quantum shifts in yourself – Discover Core Values and eliminat values binds

– Design your life vs. being a victim of circumstances

What to Expect?

Expect to experience being fully heard and to learn real-life skills that can help you get out of stuck states, develop effective strategies, and take action toward your achieving your goals. You are always a partner in your own process toward becoming everything you always wanted to be in your life.

Bill believes you have all the resources you need to get anything you want in life. You just may have had them organized in a way that was not successful.

What will happen?

You will:

– Determine what it is you want

– Explore how your life will be different when you have it

– Interrupt you old programming

– Install patterns of personal excellence

Your coaching relationship starts after a brief conversation during which we both decide to work together. Your NLP Coaching Agreement is typically for a two month minimum time period with at least three (3) sessions per month. In each new session we will discuss what happened in the one before, what has transpired between sessions, and outcomes of homework assignments. Homework will be assigned that can be accomplished in simple conversations with people or writing/journaling exercises. Any breakdowns will be “mined” for what can be learned.

Your NLP Success Coach becomes a mentor, a consultant, a counselor, and committed partner in helping you to achieve your goals for personal growth, business success, relationships, spirituality, motivation, or whatever it is that you really want in life. The first step is to determine what it is you want. The second step is to determine the “ecology” of achieving what you say you want.

After that, the coaching schedule will take you through a number of steps to assure that you are well on the path to your desired outcome. You may need to reassess parts of your life, redefine success, set new goals, change old unresourceful habits, and build self-esteem and confidence in yourself.

Flexibility is of primary concern. You will always have permission to express yourself in a safe environment. As things come up, new directions can be evaluated. Your NLP Success Coach will ask you to do more than you thought you could do. You are always a partner in your own process toward becoming everything you always wanted. NLP Success Coaching is about YOU

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Bill Thomason is your NLP Success Coach and Certified NLP Trainer providing resources for profound personal change and business excellence from Scottsdale, Arizona, USA.

Become a Master Communicator

Learn the keys to mastering communication. Better communication can equal more happiness and inner peace in your life.

Studies show that NLP skills can be learned by anyone to improve their effectiveness both personally and professionally, including become a better communicator.

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Become a Master Communicator

Author: Ryan Pearson

One key factor for you to have more happiness in your life is to work to improve your communication skills. By improving your communication skills, you will more effectively receive what you want in life.

The reason why most people have unsatisfactory results in their life, is because they have poor communication skills. People get frustrated when they don’t get what they want,and often times don’t realize it is because they did not communicate clearly, what it is they wanted.

Poor results come from poor communication, not only in personal communication, but also in metaphysical communication. Many times people do not get exactly what they want in life because their communication to the Universe or the Higher Power and to themselves is unclear.

You must be very clear on exactly what it is you want when communicating with another person, The Universe, or yourself.

I know you may be thinking, what do I mean with yourself. A lot of times we are wishy washy with what we want. We tell ourselves “I kind of want this,but I also kind of want that.” or “I guess that would be alright.”. We need to be very specific with ourselves of exactly what it is we want. We cannot express clearly, to someone else, what we want if we are unclear, about what we want, ourselves.

First we will discuss how to communicate with your Higher Power to get what you want, then we will discuss how to communicate with other people. I am using the term “Higher Power” or “Universe” because I do not want to offend any one’s religious beliefs. You can replace the term Higher Power with God or whatever name you believe the creative source to be called. The principles for communication will be the same.

To manifest what you want in life, from a metaphysical standpoint, I would highly encourage you to sit quietly with a pen and paper, and write exactly what it is that you want to create in your life. Write what you want in great detail. The more detailed you are, the better. Remember, this is about being extremely clear about what it is that you want.

After you have written what it is that you want, I would highly suggest that you read what you wrote one to three times a day out loud. This will benefit you in two ways. First, it will help your mind get extremely clear and focused on exactly what you want. Your mind being clear will help you stay focused, take proper action and communicate to others in a more clear, concise and effective manner. The second benefit is, the two most powerful ways to communicate with the Universe, to manifest, is through writing and speaking. Writing creates the most energy, with speaking creating the second most energy. Writing and speaking to the Universe are your two most powerful ways to create what you want.

Now let’s talk about our everyday communication with other people. There are many elements that go into positive effective communication. There is verbal and nonverbal communication.

The words that we use only make up 7% of our communication. The other 93% is voice tone and body language. What that means is, before you have even said a word, you have already said a lot.

It is very important to practice paying attention to your body language and voice tone. It is important to be aware of your voice tone, when you speak. Have you ever had someone ask you for something in a whiny sounding voice; or how about in a very demanding tone of voice? Think back to when someone has approached you with either of these voice tones. Did you really want to give them what they were asking for? Probably not, you were probably pretty turned off by their approach. Focus on having a friendly confident tone.

Body language is huge! So many people are giving the wrong signals and they don’t even realize it. Your words and voice tone may be saying one thing, but your body is saying something very different. The non verbal speaks louder than the verbal, always. The person that you are communicating with will most often not even realize that they are being effected by your body language, however they are, it happens on a subconscious level.

Pay attention to your body language. First of all make sure you are standing up straight with your shoulders back. Good posture communicates confidence. Everyone is attracted to a person who is truly confident. You are much more likely to have someone say yes to you, when you exude self confidence, than if you do not. Another tip is to avoid standing with your arms folded in front of you. Arms folded communicates that you are stand offish and blocking the other person from getting through to you. It also communicates disinterest.

Eye contact is so important, because of so many reasons. I will just cover a few reasons here. For one thing, it shows strong self confidence. It also allows you to have a strong connection with the person you are communicating with. A lot of people do not trust a person that avoids eye contact and building trust is the number one component to effective communication. Eye contact can be hard for some people. If you are someone who has difficulty with maintaining eye contact, begin practicing now. It begins with awareness, then practice, then mastery. One of the most important skills that you can practice and master is maintaining good eye contact.

Next comes the words that we use. Even though words are only 7% of our communication, they are still extremely important and require conscious awareness to use them effectively. There is so much to cover, when it comes to the words we use. I will share some resources for you to study on your own, that will help you with everything that we just covered. First let’s cover what I believe to be one of the most important things to be aware of when it comes to the words you use.

Most people’s main focus when they communicate is on themselves. They use the word “I” over and over again. Understanding that most people’s main interest is themselves can be a very valuable tool for you. One of your greatest tools to be a great communicator is to stop using the word “I”, “Me” and “My” so often and start using the word “You”, “Your” and “Yours” much more often. People love to talk about themselves, and if you let them do it, you will be their most favorite person in the whole world, because most of the people they talk to are talking about themselves most of the time.

Another important thing to realize is that people love the sound of their own name. Use a persons name often during a conversation with them. They will be putty in your hands.

Remember, God gave us two ears and one mouth so talk less and listen more. And really listen, a lot of times when another person is speaking we are caught up in our head thinking about how we are going to respond or just waiting for our turn to speak. Listen with you complete focus and attention on what they are saying then trust that you will be able to respond organically. The best communicators are the best listeners, not the best talkers.

To really master these skills and take your communication to a whole new level, I would highly recommend that you begin to study NLP. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. By mastering NLP, you will become a master of influence. NLP will cover the best way to use your words, how to build powerful rapport, how to read other people and so much more.

Here are a couple of tips on how to build powerful rapport. First when talking to someone on the phone or in person, match their speaking style. It is a good idea to match the voice tone and speaking speed of the person that you are talking to.

Another powerful tool is to mirror the body language of the person you are communicating with. Don’t mimic them, just subtly mirror them. When you do this you are sending them a subliminal message that you are just like them.

Remember, no matter where your communication skills currently are, you can always be better. To be a better communicator it just takes self awareness, the desire to be better and practice.

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Ryan Pearson is a Master Life Coach, Author and Inspirational Speaker. As a student and teacher of Metaphysics and Spirituality for over 14 years, he has helped many people experience more inner peace, joy, prosperity and love in their lives.

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