NLP Anchoring and the Law of Attraction

What is the law of attraction and how can NLP techniques increase and enhance its effectiveness? The following article will show the basic elements of the universal law of attraction and how it can be applied to your everyday life.  The second half of the article will demonstrate how to use and create an NLP anchor.

When you understand how to use your anchor, you will see how this new anchor can be used to accelerate the law of attraction process. By following the steps in the anchoring technique, you will be able to have access to any emotional state that you desire in any situation.

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NLP Anchoring and the Law of Attraction

By Jacob McDonald

What is the law of attraction and how can it be affected with NLP?

The Law of Attraction is the universal law that the focus of your thoughts becomes the reality that you are living. What you focus on is attracted to you. As one of the spokesman for the law attraction Mike Dooley states “Thoughts Become Things”. The principles of the law of attraction have been used in people’s lives all over the world to bring success, relationships, personal wealth, and white jaguars. The law of attraction, when used in a person’s life, literally makes dreams come true.

How can you begin to use the law of attraction in your own life? The law of attraction is easy to apply to your life and some might say that is seems to be too simple to work. Many people do not know that they are actively taking part in the law of attraction on a daily and moment to moment basis in their lives already. To begin to use the law of attraction you may use the following steps.

1. Clearly in your mind think of what it is that you want to attract into your life be it a new home, a car, a specific relationship or personal wealth.

2. State to yourself that you have the thing that you are attracting now.

3. Next, take 5 – 10 minutes each day and visualize yourself with the attracted thing, or event as if it were happening now. Feel the feelings and see the things that are congruent to having your dream now.

4. Continue this exercise once a day and allow your unconscious mind and the universe to align their selves with your will.

To clarify some of this process I will explain some of the steps in greater detail. When you are deciding what you are going to manifest into your life be very specific. Make sure when you are stating what you are attracting to yourself that you state it in the positive. If you have bills racking up do not focus on not having bills, focus and state that you have abundance and in this case be specific about how much abundance you are looking for.

When you visualize your wish happening in the present, make it so vivid to yourself that you can feel the excitement and gratitude of having this thing now. Make a note to include yourself in your visualization. If you are in want of a new car, see yourself in the car; see your hands on the steering wheel of this car. It is important to see yourself in the vision so that your unconscious mind and the universe understand you are not merely attracting seeing this new vehicle, but that you are indeed driving and have ownership of this new amazing dream. Your unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is visualized and what is actually seen. The results of this are that your unconscious mind will begin to make adjustments in yourself to make your focus your reality.

Be encouraged as you progress with this process that as you remain focused on your goal, it will come about. Continue to visualize everyday even though it may appear the results are not happening as quickly as you would like.

NLP can accelerate the law of attraction

To Reiterate; the key points of the law of attraction are to feel the intensity of the feelings that accompany you having your dream and secondly to vividly visualize your dream as a current reality.

For the first and most important aspect of the law of attraction, which is to feel the emotions and feelings of this new reality coming to pass, a powerful NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique can be used called anchoring. Anchoring in short, is attaching a neurological response to an external stimulation. An example of this is when you are in love with someone and you see their number form onto your caller you may notice your heart begin to race before you even answer the phone. Another example of an anchor that is used powerfully in marketing is through the use of music. You may feel a certain emotion when listening to specific songs. In recent car commercials I have seen the use of a variety of popular songs from the 70’s. These songs are used knowing that the target audience has an emotional response to them. The principle behind this is to attach the summer fun you felt in the 70’s to the fun you can feel in this new vehicle.

Now that you have an understanding of an anchor as an external stimulation that triggers an internal state I will explain how this can be used to enhance the process of actively attracting things and events into your life. Anchoring can be effectively used to trigger the states of excitement and joy as you want to apply to your dream and its fulfillment. In the event of your visualization you will now be able to trigger the powerful emotions that are the driving force of creating reality.

How do you go about making an anchor? There are many ways to make an anchor; I will layout several strategies to follow and you can choose the one that best works for you. First off what you are looking for in a reality creating state is: gratitude, joy, excitement and ecstasy. These are a great place to start to show your unconscious mind and the universe that this is something that you really want.

One method you can use to gain immediate access to these states is through music.

1. Find a piece of music that you particularly like, a piece of music you have access to every day is obviously preferred.

2. Now that you have your piece of music ready to play, put it on repeat if possible and begin to play the music.

3. As the music is playing what you are going to do is begin to allow yourself to experience some powerful memories.

You will think of a time when you felt gratitude for any reason. See yourself in that very moment, seeing what you saw and feeling what you felt. Make sure that you relive these memories in the clearest way you possibly can. At the moment you feel the feeling intensely immediately shift your attention to the next memory you will be using. Now find memories for each of the feelings you will be anchoring including: joy, excitement, and ecstasy

4. When you have relived several memories and felt the multiple feelings you are looking for you can turn off the music.

5. Now that the music is off, you need to forget about the whole experience and think of something else, such as what your address is, what your mother’s maiden name is, and what the model of your first car was.

6. Now it is time to test the anchor. To test an anchor it is very simple, all you need to do is introduce the stimulation again. In this case turn your song on again, and notice that you can feel the feelings of Gratitude, joy ect…

7. If you do not feel the feelings as intensely as you would like replay the song again as many times as you wish and attach as many powerful memories as you want. You may find yourself having a whole lot of fun doing this because you will start to remember things you haven’t thought of in a long time, think of the things that bring a smile to your face and a warmth in your heart.

Another method to anchor emotional states is by physical touch. This is my personal favorite when working with another person because it is more intimate and I feel more of a connection between us as we are working together to overcome specific problems or bringing out desired emotional states. This method is also powerful when doing this work on your own.

1. First you are going to choose a place on your body that you will touch with a light to medium pressure. (Note: I would recommend an area on your knee for this technique. A key point to take into consideration is to touch the same place with each emotion and to apply the same pressure each time. Many people ask if it has to be exactly the same place with exactly the same pressure. In response to this, be as close with both location and pressure as you possibly can. Do this technique to the best of your ability and you will see beautiful results.)

2. Allow yourself to experience some powerful memories. Just as stated in the third point to the auditory anchor you will clearly remember a time for each emotional state.

3. When you feel the emotion begin to build get ready to touch the area you have chosen, but be aware of your timing. Touch the area at the moment the emotion is the strongest. You will notice you can feel the emotions more intensely by increasing the details of the memory you are replaying. Hold the pressure at that area for a brief moment, 1 – 2 seconds will be perfect.

4. After you have anchored one state follow this up with thinking of some information like what did you have for breakfast, or how much did you save on your car insurance?

5. Now repeat the process for each emotional state that you are anchoring.

6. When you have anchored all of the states clear your mind and think of something like; when was the last time you went out to dinner?

7. Now test the anchor by touching yourself in the same place with the same pressure. You will feel the emotions flood in, and you may experience some of the memories after firing the anchor off.

There is a way to create an anchor using an image of any sort. To do this follow the last procedure for creating a physical body anchor, but instead of touching yourself look at an image at the peak of the feeling. You can do this with an image on your computer, a poster, a figurine or a flash card that you have or that you will construct.

Now that you have this powerful anchor you may use it to accelerate the law of attraction in your life. To do this, follow the law of attraction process, and during your 5 – 10 minute visualization period you can create the emotional state needed to cause your unconscious mind and the universe to respond by firing off your anchor. You can take this a step farther and also fire off the anchor when you are thinking of this process working in your life. You will have a twofold effect of not only attracting your dreams into your life using strong positive feelings, but you can also increase the speed of this process by attracting the success of your use of the law of attraction by using the strong feelings on your thoughts of it working.

This anchoring technique is a very powerful way to access any desired emotional state. You can use this very technique to anchor any emotional state to a song, an image, or a touch. If there is a time when you think a specific emotional state would be desired you can use anchoring to do this.

Enjoy this amazing technology and watch your life transform into your wildest dreams!

Jacob McDonald, CHT

Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner

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Nlp Can Help Overcome Postpartum and Perinatal Feelings of Dispair

Perinatal depression or postpartum depression can be the result of many components. Because of the potential severity of the consequences of this illness, women diagnosed with depression should seek treatment immediately when symptoms develop. Two beneficial approaches that do not use medication or enormous expenditures of time and money are hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

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Nlp Can Help Overcome Postpartum and Perinatal Feelings of Dispair

Author: Alan B. Densky, CH

Everyone experiences moments of sadness. In most cases, these times last for only hours or days. Nearly twenty percent of the world’s population, however, are diagnosed with major depression, which causes depression that lasts for weeks, months, or longer. These moods cause the person to develop problems functioning in work, family, or social relationships, which can become disabling.

Females who experience signs of depression after they become pregnant may be treated for perinatal depression. This illness can develop any time after pregnancy begins, or any time thereafter, until the baby is a year old. Most commonly, however, women who encounter this illness after the child is born are diagnosed with postpartum depression.

Perinatal depression or postpartum depression results from several factors. These factors can be physiological. For instance, women with a personal or familial history of major depression or other mental health problems are very likely to experience perinatal depression or postpartum depression. Furthermore, hormonal changes in postpartum mothers, such as decreases in estrogen and progesterone amounts, can precipitate this condition. After childbirth, thyroid problems can cause symptoms of depression such as exhaustion, irritability, and despair.

At times, mental depression results from psychological factors. Women often feel fatigued and stressed in learning to manage the needs of the new family member. These feelings are sometimes magnified by a lack of support from family, friends, or significant other. Financial problems can also assist in causing postpartum depression.

Perinatal depression and postpartum depression often have serious results for both the mother and her new child. Worry and depression can prevent a mother from bonding fully with her infant or being capable of meeting her child’s physiological and psychological requirements. This can further compound the woman’s sense of worthlessness, guilt, and low self-worth.

The baby is also affected by the new mother’s issues. Failure to bond with his or her mom can result in the child to develop trust problems in emotional relationships throughout life. In addition, children who do not have their physiological or psychological requirements met often do not grow and develop properly. This condition, known as “failure to thrive,” can be quite harmful or even deadly to the baby.

Perinatal depression or postpartum depression can damage the entire family. The spouse or significant other may feel ignored or powerless to decrease these depression symptoms. This can irreparably wound the partnership. Other children in the family often have similar emotions, and develop academic or peer problems as well.

Depression harms the whole family. For this reason, women who develop perinatal depression or postpartum depression ought to get depression treatment as soon as possible. Several treatments are available, including counseling and medication treatments. Medications, however, are often dangerous for nursing babies, and may yield unpredictable results due to the wide hormonal fluctuations a woman has during these hectic times. Moreover, typical counseling approaches can be lengthy and expensive.

Two techniques for dealing with depression that do not use medicines and often quickly demonstrate dramatically effective results are hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP. Traditional Hypnotherapy is most effective for clients who are effortlessly entranced or able to accept ideas without feeling a need to critique or understand them. Ericksonian hypnosis is very effective for people who tend to overanalyze. These approaches aid individuals to relax and get rid of stress.

For persons who tend to be more critical or analytical individuals, NLP is usually more effective. With this technique, trained professionals give clients depression help by coaching them to restructure their thought processes. This strategy can, very literally, assist a person think past the depressive state and overcome it.

Individuals can overcome depression by developing NLP tools such as anchoring. They are coached to remember moments when they felt happy and in control of their situations. Recalling the memory renews these emotions. Clients are coached to put two fingers together while experiencing these feelings. The unconscious mind connects the touch of the two fingers with the emotions. Thus, the finger touch becomes an “anchor.”

Then, if the person begins to feel stressed, he or she triggers the anchor by touching these identical two fingers together again. This brings back emotions of self-control and creates empowerment.

By using another approach known as the Flash, individuals discover how to think away harmful feelings. They program their unconscious minds to automatically exchange positive thoughts for negative ones. As negative thoughts arise, the mind automatically exchanges them for positive thoughts. After learning this strategy, individuals find it almost impossible to conjure up negative thoughts!

Summary: Perinatal depression and postpartum depression often have harmful results for a mother and her new infant. The remainder of the family is also deeply affected by these conditions. Due to the potential severity of the results of this illness, new mothers with depression ought to get treatment as soon as symptoms begin. Two very effective strategies that do not require medication or great outlays of time and financial resources are hypnosis and NLP.

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Alan B. Densky, CH specializes in stress and depression related symptoms as an NGH certified hypnotherapist. During his 30-year career he has helped thousands of clients. He supplies hypnosis depression therapy CDs. Visit his Neuro-VISION self hypnosis site for the hypnosis article library, or watch his free video hypnosis collection.

NLP Can Help You Quit Smoking

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NLP Can Help You Quit Smoking

Author: Shaun Parker

Since the UK smoking ban in public places started in 2007, smokers have been forced to stand on the streets puffing away while braving the wind and rain. Many are now making the choice to quit the nicotine for good and there are lots of gums, patches and substitute cigarettes to help them do that. But there could be a better way. Consider Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to help you beat the craving and give up the cigarettes for good.

It’s first important to understand your reasons for wanting to quit. Perhaps the smoking ban has made you reassess you desire for a cigarette – who wants to stand in the freezing cold after all? Maybe people have told you that you constantly smell like an ashtray and you’re starting to feel like an outcast. How do you look? Smoker’s skin is generally in a poorer state than a non-smoker and lines can appear around the mouth from all the thousands of drags on cigarettes – you might be in your thirties but look in your forties. Everyone has a reason to quit so whatever yours is, let NLP help you achieve your goal.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a technique that involves changing our behaviour and way of thinking to help bring about positive changes in our lives. By associating with certain words, phrases or images, we have consciously and sub-consciously programmed our minds to make us act or think in a particular way. If we can understand the pattern of those verbal and non-verbal forms of communication, we are able to change them and create a new map in our mind to make us act in a different way.

To stop smoking, you need to stop the brain from thinking it needs a cigarette. An NLP method that can help you do this is called the ‘swish pattern’. What triggers your desire for a cigarette? Maybe it’s a stressful situation at work or at home. Do you like having a cigarette after a meal? What about those social occasions down the pub when you’ve got a drink in your hand? These are common triggers and represent in your mind when it’s time to reach for the ciggies. So, before you grab that packet, think about what you’d like to do instead. You might decide to go out for a walk, call up a friend, eat some fruit or read a book. Choose something that you’d enjoy doing and use that as your representation.

Now you need to visualise yourself doing this alternative activity. Think about where you’d go for your walk, what you’ll say to your friend, what piece of fruit you’d like to eat or what book you’re going to read. By doing this, you’re starting to disassociate yourself with the cigarettes and you’re now someone who does something positive instead – a new, better you. When you’ve got that visualisation in your mind, make it a stronger and brighter image than the one of you smoking a cigarette. Make the walk on a sunny day, make your conversation fascinating, make the fruit taste sweet or the book so enthralling you can’t put it down. Whatever your choice of representation, make sure it’s better than the one of you smoking.

You should now have a strong representation to call on so let it start small and allow it to grow in your mind until it completely obscures the old one and any triggers that caused you to reach for the cigarettes. Do this each time you get the urge and slowly you’ll overcome your desire to smoke.

NLP has a number of techniques like this one to improve your life and give you confidence to achieve many other goals.

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Shaun Parker is an expert on therapy and alternative medicine. He helps people that are looking for NLP find neuro linguistic programming near them.

What Can Nlp Coaching Do for Me?

Learn what NLP Success Coaching can do for you. Find out what to expect from your NLP Coaching session. Expect to be fully heard and make the changes necessary to achieve positive outcomes in your life and business.

We offer NLP Certification Program and NLP Master Practitioner Training

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What Can Nlp Coaching Do for Me?

Author: Bill Thomason

NLP Success Coaching

Your NLP Success Coach doesn’t just give you advice. Expect to be fully heard and learn specific skills you need to make the changes you want to succeed now, don’t you?

Your NLP Coach believes you have all the resources necessary to achieve any outcome in life, and you may simply have those resources organized in a way you have not been getting what you want.

The Most Successful People You Know Have Coaches

NLP Success Coaching incorporates the same technology for profound personal change that sky-rocked best-selling author and motivational guru, Anthony Robbins and others to massive success. Together, personal coaching (life coaching) and business coaching (executive coaching) has become a significant and respectable business over the last few years.

You Can Make the Changes

Other coaches may give you advice, but your NLP Success Coach can help you make the specific changes necessary to achieve excellence. Like a sports coach, your NLP Success Coach will push you out of your comfort zone and support you in your decision to play a game big enough to inspire you to achieve more than you ever thought possible.

How big is the game you are playing?

The quality of your life is directly impacted by the quality of your communication. Your relationships, career, finances, and personal happiness, all depend on your ability to communicate effectively with yourself and others. In the domain of work, do you sometimes think you have communicated effectively, only to find that someone got the wrong message? Do you worry that you are so busy ‘putting out fires’ that you are not effectively moving your business and your career forward? Do you worry about saying and doing the right things to build and maintain relationships with those in authority positions? You are probably good at what you do, but there are also things you cannot see or predict from your current perspective.

A characteristic of highly successful people is that they imagine a desired future and then communicate that vision in a way that enrolls, includes, and empowers other people. Your coach will help you access your own states of excellence so that you easily exercise the energy, intention, confidence, and assertiveness necessary for extraordinary achievement.

What Can NLP Coaching Do For You?

Even Coaches have NLP Coaches! Bill Thomason has helped thousands, like you, to achieve your most highly valued outcomes of personal growth, business success, relationship, spirituality, motivation, team building, career advancement, and more. Bill will gently nudge you toward achieving more than you ever thought possible. Bill can help you decide what it is that you do want and will then work with you to identify and eliminate the barriers that have stopped you in the past from achieving everything you want. And you do want to live your life fully now, don’t you?

What stops you…?

…from achieving what you say you want in life?

Bill says one of his mentors growing up was his Uncle, Darrell Royal. According to Bill, who played football at the University of Texas in the early 1970’s, his Uncle was way ahead of his time as a college football coach. Long before the Inner Game of Tennis and Inner Game of Golf books by Timothy Galwey in the late 1970’s, Bill says he observed that his Uncle treated football players with great respect. After all, they were the best of the best. Derrell Royal didn’t have to yell at or berate his players when they didn’t perform at their capability level. He would ask pointed questions that allowed the player to draw learning from deep inside themselves and from their own unique experience of life.

Bill believes that this Uncle’s understanding of an athlete’s innate ability to excel, is what took the Texas Longhorns to National Championship status. Darrell Royal was named ‘Coach of the Decade,’ for the time period between 1965 and 1975, and was called, ‘the winningest coach’ of his time.

Areas of focus for your NLP Success Coaching session:

– Get a promotion

– Deal with conflict

– Handle loss of job

– Produce results faster

– Influence with integrity

– Acknowledging Successes

– Become an effective leader

– Be a full player on your team

– Change your personal history

– “Wire in” states of excellence

– Set and achieve goals/outcomes

– Deal with upsets/negative feelings

– Attract and maintain a relationship

– Recognize quantum shifts in yourself – Discover Core Values and eliminat values binds

– Design your life vs. being a victim of circumstances

What to Expect?

Expect to experience being fully heard and to learn real-life skills that can help you get out of stuck states, develop effective strategies, and take action toward your achieving your goals. You are always a partner in your own process toward becoming everything you always wanted to be in your life.

Bill believes you have all the resources you need to get anything you want in life. You just may have had them organized in a way that was not successful.

What will happen?

You will:

– Determine what it is you want

– Explore how your life will be different when you have it

– Interrupt you old programming

– Install patterns of personal excellence

Your coaching relationship starts after a brief conversation during which we both decide to work together. Your NLP Coaching Agreement is typically for a two month minimum time period with at least three (3) sessions per month. In each new session we will discuss what happened in the one before, what has transpired between sessions, and outcomes of homework assignments. Homework will be assigned that can be accomplished in simple conversations with people or writing/journaling exercises. Any breakdowns will be “mined” for what can be learned.

Your NLP Success Coach becomes a mentor, a consultant, a counselor, and committed partner in helping you to achieve your goals for personal growth, business success, relationships, spirituality, motivation, or whatever it is that you really want in life. The first step is to determine what it is you want. The second step is to determine the “ecology” of achieving what you say you want.

After that, the coaching schedule will take you through a number of steps to assure that you are well on the path to your desired outcome. You may need to reassess parts of your life, redefine success, set new goals, change old unresourceful habits, and build self-esteem and confidence in yourself.

Flexibility is of primary concern. You will always have permission to express yourself in a safe environment. As things come up, new directions can be evaluated. Your NLP Success Coach will ask you to do more than you thought you could do. You are always a partner in your own process toward becoming everything you always wanted. NLP Success Coaching is about YOU

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Bill Thomason is your NLP Success Coach and Certified NLP Trainer providing resources for profound personal change and business excellence from Scottsdale, Arizona, USA.

Rapport – NLP Builds Agreement In 5 Steps

The below article “Rapport – NLP Builds Agreement In 5 Steps” explains different parts of our brain interact to allow us to agree with each other on multiple layers. NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and integrated thinking provide models for building strong, effective agreements. Integrate these five layers of agreement to establish common ground and move forward with any individual or group…

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Rapport – NLP Builds Agreement In 5 Steps

By Linda Ferguson

It is remarkable how well-adapted human beings are for agreement. Our neurology has evolved to facilitate connection with other human beings, to allow a group to know more and do more than even its most productive members could accomplish on their own. Different parts of our brain interact to allow us to agree with each other on multiple layers. The different agreements interact so that it becomes easier to agree. NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and integrated thinking provide models for the next step in the evolution of agreement.

Integrate these five layers of agreement to establish common ground and move forward with any individual or group:

1. Take full advantage of mirrors. Your brain comes equipped with mirror neurons that fire when you watch others. If you see them eat grapes, the neurons fire in the areas that would be activated if you were eating grapes. This effect multiples when someone sees you mirroring him/her. Looking at your smile fires neurons in his/her smile region – where neurons are already active because s/he was smiling first. Of course, the mirror neurons were also active in your smile region when you decided to smile back. You can effectively mirror postures, gestures and expression to create one layer of agreement.

2. Keep the beat. Your brain also comes equipped with centres that monitor dozens of different rhythms and notice when those rhythms are in sync with someone else’s. You can pick up a rhythmic gesture, vocal rhythms, or blinking and breathing patterns. Notice one of these rhythms in someone else, and then send it back with your own breathing, blinking or movements. The synchronization will register in both your brains, creating another layer of agreement.

3. Offer back exactly the words that have been given to you. Agreements are strongest when they are precise mirrors: don’t rephrase in your own words. Just repeat back part of what someone has said to you exactly as s/he said it. In the new context, you might be giving the phrase a different meaning or turning a statement into a question. That’s less important than having someone register that you have heard precisely what s/he said. Being heard is almost irresistible: it creates agreement about communicating even when the communication is about controversy.

4. Create shared language patterns. The easiest form is to ask a series of questions that elicit the same answer – either yes or no will do, as long as the same answer applies to each question in the series. If someone says no to you once, that person is disagreeing. If the same person says “no” five times in a row, s/he is agreeing to complete the pattern that you are suggesting with your questions. S/he can agree by saying “yes” or agree to disagree by saying “no” another time.

5. Just say “yes.” It’s infectious and it signals agreement even when your “yes” is actually a logical “no.” For instance, you might say, “Yes, coffee is delicious and I never drink it this late in the day.” “Yes, it’s true that I disagree,” invites more conversation than “No, I don’t agree.” Although the logic says “no,” the brain also processes the “yes” as a sign of another level of agreement. “Yes” establishes that you are mapping out common ground, not moving on to greener pastures.

It is well known that people are motivated less by logic than by the integration of logic with other factors. Our reasons for making choices and taking action are always a mix of many different processes working together. Building agreement on layers of interaction creates common ground and shared momentum. It’s a great basis from which to identify common reasons and shared interests. And it feels great to be in agreement – on lots of levels.

Linda Ferguson, Ph.D. is a senior partner at NLP Canada Training Inc. in Toronto, Canada. With her partner, Chris Keeler, Linda develops training that allows people to experience stronger integrity and better results. Clients experience rapid, sustainable change and long-term learning about how their thinking drives success. Drawing on fields from the arts to business to neuroscience, NLP Canada Training Inc. provides spring-training for the mind: clients sharpen their perceptions, focus their efforts, and become better at knowing what they want and communicating to get it.

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