Dear Friends

Secrets? Really? Is this article going to be another one of those that I have read somewhere?

Well, it’s a personal story of myself and it’s my Beliefs of Success. Who am I? In a nutshell:

My story started where I was brought up in a extremely humble family where my father was a fishmonger and my mum, a hardworking homemaker. Throughout my education, I survived on bursaries and getting a new pair of school shoes was a luxury. I was a obedient child at first but during my teenage years, I became a video game addict and fell into bad company. I did badly academically that I have to retake my GCE ‘A’ levels 3 times. No school is willing to accept a retake student. I did so much better during my 3rd attempt and managed to get myself into a good university. I borrowed money and worked relentlessly with a couple of jobs during my school days to fund my tuition fees and my daily expenses. My father passed away because of a heart attack when I was in Year 3 of my undergraduate studies and my mum died 1 year after due to terminal stage lung cancer. After I have graduated, I was deadbroke and owed a huge debt. I worked a couple of jobs day & night and repaid my debt within 1.5 years. I was penniless then, but it was one of the best moment in my life.

I worked hard and I eventually graduated with 3 Degrees (2 Bachelor Degrees & a Master Degree) and was even honoured a Singapore National Award called the ‘Lifelong Learner Award’ from the Minister of Manpower, Mr Gan Kim Yong, in 2008. I was subsequently featured in “TODAY” newspaper, “938Live Online News”, “938Live Radio Station” & “Mediacorp Xin.Sg”. I have also co-founded an award-winning educational board game (Ministry of Education Innergy award 2003), which was featured in “Channel 8”, “Channel U”, “Kids Central” and “LianHeZaoBao” .

After working previously as an employee for more than 10 years, I left my last job as an Assistant Vice President in a listed company to start my company called ‘Mind Kinesis Management International LLP’ which runs Mind Kinesis NLP Academy and Mind Kinesis Value Investing Academy focussing on training people in the arena of NLP & Value Investing. I am now Financially FREE!

Talking about a better life?

In July 2010, I was diagnosed with Renal Cancer. Despite having this disease, I continued with the launch of my 1st charity project in August 2010, where I donated all of the sales proceeds of my book titled ‘Do You Have What It Takes to Be BOSS?’, to ‘The Straits Times School Pocket Money Fund’. This project was featured on 938Live Radio Station ‘The Living Room’ and Straits Times. My fight with Renal Cancer was subsequently published in Straits Times ‘Mind Your Body’ and I was also interviewed on 938Live Radio Station ‘A Slice of Life’.

I am currently happily married with a little girl and I am living the life that I have always wanted.

Well, it’s my personal experience and these are what I felt that they will be useful for you:

1) WINNERS BELIEVE “WHAT IF I SUCCEED”, OTHERS BELIEVE “WHAT IF I FAILED”

Before I left my previous company as an employee, I remembered vividly that there were occasions when I shared with my colleagues that one day, I am going to make in 1 day what people make in 1 month in this company. They all laughed with disbelief. “How is it possible?” they said. It has been a number of years now and the amazing thing is that I can make in 1 day their 1 year’s salary. It’s not the money that’s is important, it’s what one believes in. The logic is simple, one only do things that one strongly believes in and vice versa. If one did not believe in what he can do, he simply do NOTHING and nothing is what he gets. If one strongly believe in something, he is definitely going to do something about it. Before I started my Training Business, I was warned by my colleague, out of 10 people who runs a business, 9 failed. Unfortunately, I only think that I will be that 1. Another champion speaker whom I met from a Toastmasters Club shared with me that he previously left his job and became a professional speaker, but it was tough and he gave up after 1.5 years of struggle. Out of good intention, he shared with me that if I can survived for 1 year as a Professional Speaker, I am damn good already. I DID!

Does doing something guarantees success? May and may not. But one thing for sure, if one does Nothing, it’s a sure Failure.

So what do you believe in?

2) WINNERS ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY, OTHERS PUSH RESPONSIBILITY

“It’s not my fault”, “Hey, there is nothing much I can do here”, “He is the one. Go ask him”. Any of these sound familiar to you? If you are the one saying these, notice the words that you used. So what’s the big deal and benefit of taking 100% responsibility? When you take Personal Responsibility, you take charge even when things go wrong. You are the driver of your own bus. But the moment you start to push responsibility and blame others, you are implying that others take control of your life, isn’t it? And others are driving your bus.  

When I used to coach others, the common response when a person did not get their goal is that they will find tons of reasons why they did not reach their goal. That’s a good start – they have identified the problems. Unfortunately, that’s what they did and they simply did not learnt from it and ask themselves what they MUST do to reach their outcome. So why some decide not to take responsibility even they knew it was important? Ask yourself this , which one is easier – take responsibility or blame others? You see why people behave in the way they do? 

3) WINNERS PAY THE PRICE OF SUCCESS, OTHERS HOPE FOR SUCCESS

This is my personal favorite “Winners pay the Price of Success”. Success in whatever forms, tangible or intangible, does not drop from the sky. You want to be RICH, you got to pay the Price to be Rich. You want to be Successful, you got to pay the Price to be Successful. You want to have a Happy Family, you have to pay the Price to have a Happy Family. Lots of effort are involved. One of my favorite quote goes “The harder you work, the luckier you get” ~ Donald Trump. Most of us only see the end result of the successful people whether they are rich, famous, or simply happy but not many saw what they have done to achieved their success. One good example is that a participant was saying that being in the sales line such as Insurance or Real Estate makes big bucks. When I asked them why won’t they themselves do it? They replied: “No CPF. No employer’s CPF. No medical benefits. No leave. No regular salary.” You see? They know how much a Top Salesman will make. But are they willing to pay the price to get to the Top?What about you?

My personal take, whoever is up there, they deserved to be up there. You can make a Choice today to be one of them!

Have a great week ahead!

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Have a GREAT Week ahead!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
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Hi Friends

One of the coordinator of Children Cancer Foundation (CCF) passed me a Photo Frame after I have organised a small event for their beneficiaries last Saturday (25th Jun 11), a group of fun-living children who have survived cancer. And on the picture within the photo frame was 2 people lying on a beautiful green patch of grass with a short paragrah and it read:

“THIS PHOTO represents the love I feel from all those around me. When looking at this photo, I feel the deep love between the 2 people in it. Similarly, when I see my friends and family, I can sense how much they care for me ….. I remember the wonderful things they have done for me during my cancer journey ….. My perspective on love between friends, family and lovers would be exactly how everyone would view this photo – simple, yet beautiful.” ~ Tracy, 16 Years Old (Survivor of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia).

Along the way to the event venue in a Coach, I was chatting with the coordinator of CCF and I wanted to know what other things any member of the public can help. I asked a question about  how terminally-illed children patients cope with the last few weeks or even days of their life. She shared that one initiative CCF has is to grant them a last wish before the patient leave. She shared about a case where a young teenager wanted to fulfil her last wish – which is to be a Chef. CCF quickly make arrangements where the teenager can visit a Professional Chef so that her dream can come true. Unfortunately, after arrangements were made, the patient suffered a relapse and she no longer is fit to realised her dream. However, the Chef initiated to bring all his cooking equipments to the patient’s home. Eventually, the patient was dressed up like a professional Chef at home and she had such a memorable & wonderful time with the Chef even though she was physically lethargic. Her DREAM came true. She became a Chef for that day ………. and she left subsequently ………….. I almost teared after hearing the story as it reminded of those days when I had renal cancer. I told the CCF Coordinator that I wanted to be a Sponsor to make the Dreams of the terminally-illed patients come true and I really mean it. I really hope that all of their patients survived and I will never receive any phone call from them. But if they really need me, I will always be ready to support the patient to make their last wish come true!

In about 1.5 months time, I will be having my next CT Scan and it will also be my One-Year Anniversary of Cancer Remission. Every single time when I received the CT Scan Results and it shows negative, I felt that I have been granted at least another 6 months to live and I am happy to live and make the best out of it. The best part about being able to wake up and live to see another day is not about how much money I make, or whether I appear in the Radio or Press, or whether did I became popular each day. It’s just a simple thing that I wanted, the exact same thing that I wanted when I woke up every single day when I was warded last year after my cancer treatment – to be able to open my eyes again and see my loved ones again, be able to look at the beautiful sky, the evergreen trees with their leaves swaying in rhythm with the gentle breeze. Nothing more.

As you start a Brand New Week again. Let me share a quote with you – “I remember promising myself that should I live, I would prove myself deserving of life” ~ Terry Fox, who died because of cancer but he raised millions of dollars through his Marathon of Hope during his last days. But we all lived to see another day. Will you promise yourself that you will prove yourself to be deserving of LIFE? I know you will!

Cheers  to LIFE!

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Have a GREAT Week ahead!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
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The World is beautiful, isn’t it?

Hi Friends

Now you understand what NLP is all about and a brief history of NLP. Ther next question is how do you use it to produce results for yourself?

One of the essence of NLP is NLP Modelling. In simple terms, NLP allows any individual to understand a the pattern of thoughts of any outstanding individuals (eg, Top sales people, top public speakers, top corporate executives, etc.) and run this set of programmes consciously in our mind to an extent that it becomes part of us (unconscious). When we need a certain behaviour such as confidence, bravery, motivation, etc., we just need to ‘switch on’ this patterns and let it run in our mind. That will unconscious produce any type of behaviour that we want. 

In a nutshell, when we want Confidence for Public Speaking, click on the ‘switch’ and Confidence is what we’ve got. When we want Motivation to do well in our work,  click on the ‘switch’ and Motivation is what we’ve got.

For a more technical explanation, you can watch John Grinder ‘s (Co-founder of NLP) video below:

A simpler explanation by Anthony Robbins:

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Have a GREAT Weekend!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”
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Dear Friends

In simpler terms, NLP is how you can use the language of the mind, to create any desired emotions (eg. confidence, courage, powerful, etc.) that you want and subsequently produce the results that you want. NLP is not only about competence and excellence, it is also about wisdom and vision.

For the techie people who wants a more in-depth definition, listen to the co-founders themselves by watching the following video below:

(I) What is NLP? – by Dr John Grinder

(II) What is NLP? – by Richard Bandler

Want to know how NLP can help you to ACHIEVE ANYTHING YOU WANT? Chat with me by attending our Free NLP Workshop.

Have a GREAT Weekend!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”

Dear Friends

Whenever I conduct NLP Training, there will always be a small group of who will asked me about how I felt and how I managed when I was diagnosed with cancer previously. Well, it wasn’t easy. Not only for me but my love ones too. In my opinion, is there anything more frightening than death? Yes, it’s not watching your love ones die, but watching your love ones live ……. but they don’t remember you. As I am typing this, there will  be some people out there, somewhere out there, despite having financial, physical and mental challenges, you are and still taking care of your love ones …. who suffered from dementia.

This Korean Movie titled ‘A Moment To Remember’ reminded me how to treasure the love ones around us when I still remember them:

Do you know what the leading actress meant by ‘heaven’ when she asked ‘Is this heaven?’

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Have a GREAT Weekend!

Cayden Chang
Founder & Director, Mind Kinesis Management International
BSc(Hons), MSc
Lifelong Learner Award 2008 Honouree
Co-author, “Do You Have What It Takes To Be BOSS?”