Great Philanthropists | You too can be one

Posted by on Jun 21, 2016 in Inspirational Stories, Self Improvement |

What is a philanthropist? Who are the most famous philanthropists? You too can be one.

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The Giving Pledge lists the names of people – all billionaires – who have pledged to give away more than 50% of their wealth.

Some have more to give; others have less to give; and, some have nothing to give.

Nothing? Is that possible?

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Meng, who worked as a mechanic in a local SME, was reluctant to work overtime and that upset his boss, Sylvester.

When time came to knock-off, Meng was usually the first out the gate and because of this, Sylvester usually marked him down during the annual performance reviews. Meng would complain that he worked very hard and unlike the other mechanics, he was never late for work, never disappeared for “smoke breaks” and always completed his tasks faster. He was quite unpopular with his co-workers.

This year was no different and when Meng saw his low performance score, he protested, “I’m never late, always punch in on time!”

“And you always punch out on time too!” retorted Sylvester.  

“Aiyah, you always give me work at the last minute. See, even that job came in yesterday,” said Meng, as he pointed to a gearbox on the wooden crate. “Now, you tell me the customer wants it tomorrow.”

“Hey, you’re only a mechanic, don’t tell me how to manage my business.”

“Aiyah, sorry-lah, boss, don’t be like that but if you’d told me earlier, I can prioritise my work.”

“You’re so rich, you don’t want overtime, is it?”

“Boss, don’t be like that, I want the money but I’m also doing charity work,” replied Meng.

“Charity? You’re so rich is it?”

“Aiyah, money always not enough, boss, but I do all the repairs in an old folks home,” said Meng, “the electrical, the plumbing, the painting, the grass cutting and everything.”

“Just do as you’re told!”

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Who is the rich one, who is the poor?

Giving is more than merely giving money. A person who gives his time to help others is also a philanthropist.

Unlike money, when you give your time, there are no tax breaks. Unlike money, when you give your time, you cannot earn it back. When you give your time, you touch people in ways that enriches the recipient and you, the giver. Giving one’s time to help others – anyone and in any small way – is the greatest of all gifts.

When you give your time – you give away a part of your life. You join the ranks of the great philanthropists.

Perhaps Meng could have handled the situation better but then again, Meng is “only a mechanic”.

As for Sylvester – if he could not give his time, at the least he could help Meng give his.

Thank you and have a great day ahead!

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Top 10 Strategies for Making Your New Year’s Resolution Stick

Posted by on Dec 31, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips, Self Improvement |

2014 is on the horizon, and most of us are scrambling to make up a few New Year’s resolutions that, frankly, we’ll probably forget about in February. Here’s how to create a resolution that actually sticks so you can better yourself this year.

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1) Focus on One Resolution

One of the first mistakes people make is planning too many resolutions. The fewer things your brain has to deal with, the better, and you’ll be able to focus all your motivation on one resolution, increasing the chances you’ll succeed.

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2) Get Someone to Hold You Accountable

 Having an “accountability buddy” is an old, yet tried-and-true tip for sticking to your resolutions. Tell your goals to a few close family and friends who will be honest with you and keep you on the right track. Heck, if you’re having trouble thinking of a good resolution, those buddies can actually help you pick one, too (since they know you best, faults and all). Don’t go too overboard, though. Remember, sometimes sharing with too many people can hinder your accomplishments.

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3) Set Ultra-Specific Goals

New Year’s resolutions are often big and general, making them hard to attain. The more specific you can be, the easier it will be to reach that goal. “Lose weight” or “get in shape” is a bad resolution; “Lose 15 pounds by March” is a good one. Setting multiple specific goals throughout the year is good, too. That way, you always have something attainable to focus on that doesn’t seem far off.

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4) Piggyback Your Resolution with Existing Habits

If your resolution involves building small habits—like, say, flossing every day or taking daily vitamins—you can “piggyback” these habits with other, already-established ones. Stick your dental floss in your shower and floss during your shower, or put your vitamin jar inside your kitchen cupboard so you always remember to take them when you eat breakfast. The easier you can form the habit, the more likely it is to stick.

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5) Give Yourself a Trial Run

Not every resolution is perfect out of the gate, so don’t hold yourself to a poorly-formed goal if it just won’t work. Give yourself a 30-day trial run to work out the kinks, where you can let yourself stumble a bit and tweak your goals to something better suited for success. Keep in mind that not all habits are formed in 21 days, as conventional wisdom says, so even after the trial run, give yourself time to sink into the habit before you start admitting defeat.

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6)Trick Your Mind

Resolutions are hard to keep without a sense of accomplishment. Having specific, gradual goals can help, but another trick is to play some mind games with yourself.even if you know you’re using it on yourself. Focus on anything that makes you feel like you’re succeeding. If you’re trying to lose weight, eating from smaller plates will make you “feel” fuller, even if you’re eating the same amount of food, for example. Do whatever you need to do to trick your mind and you’ll be well on your way to success.

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7)Visualize the End Result

As writer Rod Ebrahimi says, “focus on the carrot, not the stick”. If you’re having trouble staying motivated, focus on what you’ll get from your end goal—whether that’s feeling better at a lower weight, being able to impress your friends with your new guitar skills, or just being able to breathe now that you’ve quit smoking. Staying positive seems like common sense, but it can be hard when you’re in the middle of a big plateau.


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8) Closely Measure Your Progress

If you’ve created specific goals, then getting positive reinforcement should be easy. Every time your each one of those goals—even if it’s just a daily goal—mark it off on a checklist or calendar.

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9)Remind Yourself of Your Goals Every Day

If you’re having trouble keeping your goals at the forefront of your mind, you can use one of any number of tricks to constantly remind yourself (besides tracking your progress). Set an alarm on your phone with a message of why you’re doing this, record yourself on a webcam every day, or use dry erase markers to write your goals on your bathroom mirror.

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10)Start Right Now

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ARE YOU A HIGH PERFORMER OR A WORKAHOLIC?

Posted by on Dec 5, 2014 in Self Improvement |

hi friends,

To understand the difference between high performers and workaholics, I believe that there are healthier ways for us to work without sacrificing our values, the people we value, or the value we create but we, as a society, mistake workaholism for high performance, but they are two distinct ways of working.

High performance and workaholism look the same on the outside. They both look like hard work. The BIG DIFFERENCE is how the individual feels on the inside about who they are in relationships to their work.

A high performer works hard in healthy sustainable ways and feels happy and inspired.

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A workaholic works hard in unhealthy unsustainable ways and feels unhappy and burned out.

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1. Doing Business vs. Being Busy

A high performer’s #1 goal is to do business. The only thing that matters to them are results. If they can’t see a way to create value in the moment, they facilitate or strategize instead. They know that like the economy, business comes in waves, therefore, they get ready during the dips so they can capitalize during the upswings.

A workaholics’ #1 goal is to be busy. Workaholics fill any space in time with busy work because they feel insecure doing nothing. The insecurity comes from not knowing their value. They believe that the busier they are, the more important they must be. As a result, they find a way to be busy even when it’s not busy season instead of periodically hibernating throughout the days, weeks, months, quarters, and year for when the highs come.

2. Knows What’s Enough vs. Never Enough

A high perform knows what is enough. Whether we win by 1 point or 50 points, it doesn’t matter. A win is a win. High performers see more in the areas that matters, but they know what enough is in the areas that don’t matter so much. This comes from having a clear definition of success.

A workaholic doesn’t know what enough is. I’m not good enough. This isn’t good enough. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough support. They are always focused on more and seeing to maximize everything because they don’t really know what success means to them.

3. 100% At The Right Time vs. 110% All Of The Time

A high performer knows when to turn it up. When their number is called, they give everything they have. They don’t buy into the illusion of 110%. They know that 110% is unsustainable. Instead they focus on increasing their capacity so that their 100% is better than the competition’s 110%.

A workaholic thinks “turn down for what?” They hustle, grind, and go H.A.M. all of the time. They have difficulty prioritizing what’s important, therefore, everything is important in their mind.

4. Knows Their Value vs. Allows Others To Determine Value

A high performer knows their self-worth and can thus work with a sense a freedom. This comes from doing periodic self-evaluation of their performance so that they can constant improve. They create their own feedback loops rather than waiting on feedback from others.

A workaholic relies on external validation from their boss, colleagues, and clients and thus works with a sense of fear. They wait for external evaluations such as mid-year or annual reviews done by others to understand how well they are doing.

5. Proactive/Intentional vs. Reactive/Unintentional

A high performer is proactive about their time and work. They design their day and anchor the most meaningful and important things in time first, and then they allow fires and other unplanned events to fill in the rest of their day. They don’t allow distractions to deter their strategy.

A workaholic is reactive about their time and work. They allow other people to choose how their time gets spent working by reacting to emails, fires, unplanned events, and other distractions that arise throughout the day. If and when all of the minutia get address, they try to do what’s most meaningful.

6. Focus On What I Control vs. What I Can’t

A high performer focuses on their effort—inputs and outputs. Only the individual knows if they gave the task at hand their best. They judge themselves against their best self as opposed to others.

A workaholic focuses on the outcome and their income. Even when you think you do your best, the outcome that we occurs and the income that is derived from it is not fully in our control. Their desire to compare leads them to judge themselves using common metrics of success which aren’t always directly correlated to effort.

7. Put Self First vs. Second

A high performer puts themselves first because they know that by doing so, it allows them to serve others at a higher level. At times it appears to be selfish, but it’s actually selfless because they want to give first-class service to those they work with and for.

A workaholics puts others before themselves. This appears to be selfless, but it’s not sustainable. When we constantly give more than we have and never take time to replenish our source, we end up depleted. This behaviors is also driven by the good intention of service, but desire to be needed and be the hero counters that intention.

At the end of the day, workaholics do work to look important while high performers look for important work to do.

Author: Jullien Gordon

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What if being Happy is easier than what you thought?

Posted by on Oct 31, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips |

Hi friends,

Being Happy is the Key to Life

Being happy  can be real and beneficial element of your daily life.
We are being brought up in a way that being happy is depends on getting more than what we have now. “Once I have this I will be happy”.

We spend most of the time worrying what other people think of us, we try to live up exaggerated images of how a sexy looks like, and base our self-image on what other people think is the right image to promote. This will restrict our happiness and ultimately every aspect of our lives.

In order to be spiritually happy,we first need to change the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us. it all starts with the way you feel inside.

Here are 10 ways to feel better about yourself, try them and see what happens.

1. Everyday, write down 25 things you are grateful for. Yes, you can find 25 things. What we focus on the most becomes our experience. Shift your focus to all the things that you are grateful for in life and you’ll instantly feel better.

2.  Help someone else. It’s far too easy to get wrapped up in our own problems. We forget how lucky we truly are and how many people we can help. When you focus on helping someone else or promoting a cause that you believe in, it’s amazing how things seem to sort themselves out and your self esteem increases as you do this.

Do more of what makes you happy. Look for ways to fill your day with things that you love, it could be listening to an uplifting audio book on the commute to work, taking ten minutes during your lunch break to meditate or even signing up for an evening course in something you have always wanted to do. Whatever makes you smile, do more of it.

3.  Stop scaring yourself. How often do we scare ourselves with things that either haven’t happened yet or probably never will? Worrying won’t help change anything and will just make you feel worse. If you are worried about something start to visualize your ideal outcome and see yourself handling the situation well. Our minds react amazingly to our expectations

4.  Don’t buy into the hype. Never invest any of your energy into thinking that you have to live up to other people’s expectations in order to feel happy. Remember, nobody except you has to live in your life.  So make decisions because they are truly what are best for you. Don’t invest any more energy in trying to gain approval from an outside source. Toss the airbrushed ideals of what you think you should look or act like and focus on being happy with yourself.

5.  Choose influences carefully. The books we read, the music we listen to, magazines we flip through, and the people we surround ourselves with all have a massive impact on our self-image and our outlook on life. Ask yourself, “Do my influences support where I want to go with my life?”

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6.  Get some quiet time. Meditation is the practice of stilling the mind and looking deeper within. If done correctly, this ancient practice can have amazing effects on your mental and physical wellbeing. Give yourself some quiet time each day to look within and recognize the changes that unfold.

7.  Do something! Have a dream that still hasn’t come true? Don’t stand there like a deer in headlights. Take action! Go after what you want! Yes it can be scary but nothing is going to change unless you start moving. Face your fears, be strategic and have a plan. Taking action and doing something reduces anxiety and gets you closer to what you want.

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8.  Let go of what other people think. Seriously, it really doesn’t matter. Most of what we think comes from our past experiences and isn’t actually about what others think at all. If you spend too much time worrying what other people think of you just stop. My personal manifesto is, “You can worry about what people think, or you can get things done, you can’t do both.” It’s time to take your power back

9. Leave your past in the past. Whatever happened in the past, you have to decide to move on. That does not mean that you begin to condone bad behavior or deny your past pain, it means that you choose to stop letting these things affect your NOW. Do whatever you need to do to move on and choose to start being happy.

10.  Have fun.  Live an exciting life filled with the things that you love.  Bring passion into everything that you do and light up every room that you enter.

Article from: http://elitedaily.com

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3 things You Don’t Know About Ice Bucket Challenge

Posted by on Aug 22, 2014 in NLP Success & Life Tips |

                                     1. How Ice Bucket Challenge does come about?

Corey Griffin who has the idea for the ice bucket challenge after his good friend;Pete Frates was diagnosed with ALS in 2012. Corey was inspired to help his friend and raise awareness for the disease. The ice bucket challenge took off, and raised over $20 million for ALS research.

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                                 2.Why are they doing this Ice Bucket Challenge?

For charity, specifically to raise money in support of the ALS Association. If you accept the challenge, you still need to donate money,$1 is fine, $10 is great. ALS recommends $35, $60, or $120, though you can donate however much you like..          

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                              3.  The rules to the Ice Bucket Challenge

I. Get Challenged (Celebrity/ Politicians that get challenged) *click on the image to zoom in

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II. Accept The Challenge

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IV.  Dump Ice Water On Your Head and Donate 

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V. Film Your Masterpiece

VI. Celebrity, Politicians and Sport Stars doing Ice Bucket Challenge

 

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